It’s no secret that most single men are often on the hunt for a beautiful woman. They have tried to be the perfect man for that special woman, but nothing seems to work to make it long term. If you’re that single guy then perhaps it is time to take a long hard look at yourself and explore some of the things that might have happened in past that did not work out. This will take complete honesty on your part, and may very well give you some guilty twinges about those past relationships. Here are 5 reasons why you don’t have a girlfriend.
Self-Confidence Is Important
Unless you’re relying on online dating, how you present yourself is probably the first thing that women notice. This doesn’t just mean in terms of physical appearance, it is about the air of confidence around you. Women are drawn to men who are confident, genuine and straightforward. Being comfortable in your own skin is huge in terms of how women perceive you.
A self-confident man does not worry about whether or not he measures up to other men. Every man is different and the confident man puts his best foot forward, so to speak. If you are unsure of yourself it is like a neon sign blinking above your head. When you’re meeting new people be sure to turn on the charm and the swag, women will see it and be drawn to it.
Choose Places Other Than Bars
Looking for a girlfriend in the local drinking establishments makes the work you put in twice as hard. Most of the women do not expect to meet the right man in a bar because these places are notorious for sleazy men and one-night stands… meaning that if you do ‘get lucky’ it will most likely be with an equally sleazy girl or someone only looking for a one night stand.
If you are serious about meeting the woman who is right for you for more than just one night, don’t rely on bars. Try looking at a local fitness center or places that have group functions and events. You may be pleasantly surprised to find someone with the same interests as you which sets a better foundation for something long-term.
Learn To Listen
When you do meet someone that you’re interested in pay attention to the womanâ€™s likes and dislikes. Learning about another person is key to knowing how they think and what makes them tick. Establish a mutual interest and build on it to take your initial connection even further. This keeps their interest because you have a common ground to share. You can then take that information and use it to plan out future dates and events together.
The more dates and fun activities you have together the more apt they will be to continue seeking you out, which means you won’t have to chase them. Which leads to the next point…
Are You Too Needy?
Constantly calling or texting the person you have set your sights upon can drive them away. Neediness comes from not feeling secure or validated, and while the feelings can be there it is important to suppress the actions that come with it. A woman does not really want or need to be your lifeline any more than you want to be hers. Give the person some breathing room and don’t base your entire self worth or social life on them because it can build resentment and leave you lonely in no time.
Keep the Rejects as Friends
As frustrating and annoying being turned down is, not to mention a huge blow to the ego, this is one field where giving up and backing away should never happen. Relationships and dating is an area where no one should settle and, if done correctly, persistence can be your friend. If things don’t work out with one woman don’t rule her out completely. Instead, remain friends with a platonic relationship.
Keeping girls as friends gives you access to a new social circle where you will meet new women and have exposure that you wouldn’t have had previously. The rapport you have built with your new friends will be invaluable in meeting other women along the way. Your social circle is an asset, and that is more important than just one woman.
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